walk in the park

Marriage experts advocate continuing to date your spouse after marriage and children.  This is easier said than done... especially with four kids between the ages of two and ten!  Although it's difficult, I am recently realizing just how important it is, and how lax I have been in continuing to cultivate my relationship with my wife.

Yesterday, I had Jen arrange to have her Mom come over, after church, to stay with the kids for the afternoon.  I made sure the kids were fed, and put together a simple picnic lunch for the two of us.  I took Jen to the gardens at a local metro park, where I think I had only taken her once before, when we were dating.  It was nothing fancy, and we had no agenda, but we enjoyed the afternoon strolling the rose gardens and doing some streamside hiking... and Jen even found her first geocache. 

The afternoon went way too fast, but it was the kind of days we used to have when our life was much simpler.  It is sometimes hard to appreciate each other in the throes of daily stress and chaos that has characterized our life for the past years, but yesterday reminded me of one simple thing... I really enjoy my wife's company!

It had been so long since I had actually put time and effort into planning a "date" with my wife (instead of the typical "what do you want to do?", "I don't know, what do you want to do?"), that it felt a little like a first date all over again.  (In fact, I'm hoping she'll go out with me again!)

I'm a protective Dad, and I'm not about to just dump my kids off at any opportunity, with just anyone who will keep them... I have way too much invested in them for that style of parenting.  But, at the same time, I need to put more investment into my marriage.  I need to arrange more opportunities, like yesterday, to slip away and just be a couple.. even if it is just a simple afternoon walk in the park.  Thanks, Jen, for a great afternoon!

I have often considered myself to have an eye for photography... at least I used to think so.  Anymore, it seems my mind is so cluttered with other things, that I don't slow down enough to notice as much as I used to.  The opposite has happened with Jen, however.  She never used to have an interest in photography, but since getting our digital camera, she has developed that interest, and most of our nicest recent pictures have been a result of her sharp eye.  She could probably have spent several more hours walking these gardens looking for photographic opportunities, but (except for the obvious few I took with her in them) here are a few of her pics:

"hot" date?

I probably don't date my wife enough, but I had one planned for this coming Friday night that I thought was a good one. However, Ben's early arrival put the kibosh on that.

Jen enjoys dinner and a movie. Problem is, most of what Hollywood produces is not worth supporting, at least in my opinion. This Friday, the movie Fireproof opens in theaters. Fireproof, starring Kirk Cameron and Erin Bethea, is a film that portrays wholesome values and is actually made not just to entertain, but with the purpose of strengthening marriages. You can read a review of this film at Plugged In Online.

I am told that the opening weekend is a major factor in determining the long term success of a film, so I am disappointed that we cannot attend the film for it's premiere. I am hoping it will be well attended to send a message, to those who notice, that wholesome films can succeed. So, while my wife and I won't see you there, if you're looking for something fun to do this weekend, check out Fireproof and let me know what you think of it!