Zachary informed us, the other day, that when he grows up he wants to join the circus and be a clown! While Zachary is the one of my four children that I could see pulling that off, it's not exactly the path I would choose for him. But, then again, I don't WANT to choose for him.
What I do hope, though, is to help my children explore many career paths, and choose one that they feel well suited for, possibly even a calling toward. What matters to me is not that they choose a path of prestige, or wealth; but that they choose a path that fulfills what God created them to be. As long as they choose a reputable career that meets their family's needs, and they pursue that career with diligence and honor, I plan to be proud of them.
When Dylan was about three, he was obsessed with heavy equipment. His somewhat limited vocabulary included words like, "bulldozer, backhoe, and excavator". He would often say that he wanted to drive a bulldozer when he grew up. At some point, an individual informed this aspiring three year-old bulldozer operator that he should go to college. Having two degrees that I was not using, I defended his choice and affirmed that I would only push him to be the best bulldozer driver he could be. (I also told him he needed to find a way to let me drive the dozer once in a while.) He pondered this and decided that he would own his own "scruction company" and give me a job. His interest in construction has since waned, but the point is, that he was not concerned with wealth or fame, but knew what he loved.
This is one of the life lessons that I have learned the hard way... or, perhaps, I am still learning. I joke that I am still not sure what I want to do when I grow up, but it really is not that funny. I don't deny that my career choices have been pretty misguided, which is one of the main reasons I am currently having such a difficult time marketing myself to potential employers. I don't necessarily fault anyone for this. My parents wanted me to go to college, because they did not have that opportunity, but never pressured me. They did encourage me to explore options, even those not requiring college. I did feel pressure, though. I graduated in the top ten percent of my high school class, and many just assumed that I would go to college and do great things. It was almost as if I felt pressured, by society, that not going to college was to waste good intelligence. In fact, though, there are many professions that do not necessarily require a college education, that are not a "waste" of good intelligence. I recently visited a technical school, at which I applied for a position, and it struck me that I probably would have been much happier and much more successful if I had received a two year degree from that or a similar institute, than I have been with the six years of Bachelor's/Master's degrees that are doing little more than decorating my bedroom wall. If only I knew then what I'm realizing now...
A classic example of a good choice is my best high school friend. He, too, was, and is, very intelligent. But, he decided that he was meant to work with is hands and college was not the route he chose. After high school, he pursued an apprenticeship as a bricklayer, and has since worked his whole adult life in that profession. He is very good at what he does, takes great pride in his work, lives in a brick home that he personally built, an has made a good living from his chosen profession. Could he have been a doctor? A lawyer? Any number of other professions that we commonly think of as having great prestige? Absolutely. Did he waste his intelligence? Absolutely not!
So you want to be a clown, Zachary? While I think you're just "clowning" around, I do hope you will grow to know yourself and the God who created you, and that you will study your options fully and carefully. Then, go be the best you can be at whatever you choose to give your life to... even if it is the circus!